I have always tried to see life as a journey. There have been times in my life where I’ve been pulled to view my passage here on earth as a means to an end, but when I choose to keep a pilgrimage perspective I find that I’m less disappointed (or even crushed) when things don’t go as planned.
Most of us walk through the world with the presumption that we will get where we intend to go, but more often than not the path you choose takes a sharp turn or presents you with a fork in the road.
These sliding door moments are pivotal, and present an opportunity for transformation. They may feel like road blocks or dead ends, but these are the most precious points in time where change is imminent.
Bumping up against a harsh reality that doesn’t deliver your wildest dreams offers endless lessons about life, uncertainty, promises, expectation and hope.
It will either devastate you or teach you.
The choice is yours.
The most important thing you can do right now is honor and accept that you will be detoured or derailed at some point in your life.
Maintaining an illusion of certainty, and an expectation that your life will deliver what you order makes it harder to bounce back from the let downs.
View these times in your life as a change of course. Remaining adaptive and flexible will allow you to bend in any direction without breaking.
I’m not suggesting that you give up hope or that you shouldn’t trust in the future.
There’s a grave difference between blindly believing that the path you choose will take you to the predicted end, and treading lightly with the knowledge that each step you take is into the unknown.
So next time you walk up to a window in your life that says “sold out” let yourself be shocked, but not surprised because nothing in life is for sure, even if you think it should be.
Dr. Andra Brosh October 7th, 2014