Good role models are hard to come by.
If you have one or two people in your world that inspire you to be a better person you’re lucky.
Role models come in different forms. Some are insidious in the sense that they get into your pysche without permission like caregivers or authoritative figures who influence you without permission.
Then there are the role models you choose with your own volition through exposure and education.
Characters in books, actors, world leaders, and even strangers in every day life can shift the way you see yourself and the world through inspiration.
You might also seek specific role models during particular transitions in life like divorce, illness, loss, or mid-life crisis.
Role models are essential for personal growth and they serve as guideposts for your own aspirations and development.
Your role models are often projections of the parts of yourself you haven’t quite embodied or embraced.
A role model can be considered to be a version of yourself existing in the external world.
With that in mind, who are your role models? Take a minute to think about this question and write down at least 3 people that you admire and who’s wisdom you would ingest without question.
Then ask yourself these follow up questions about these people:
What qualities or experiences do I identify with?
What has this person done that I admire?
What is this person’s world view?
What do we have in common?
How do I want to be like him/her?
Anything you write down in response to these questions can be considered within the context of your own self-identity.
What would happen if you reframed all of this as being about you? What if you thought of yourself as having those qualities or doing the things you admire?
What you admire and see in other people is very much connected to how you see yourself. Somehow we don’t allow ourselves the same admiration we hold for others.
Use your role models as tools to understand the parts of yourself that need to be nurtured and exposed. Let the qualities you admire be your own, and make their world view the one you see through your own eyes.
This isn’t you mimicking someone else’s perspective and philosophy, it’s a way to tap into your own authenticity and self-identity.
You’re intentions are to:
Dr. Andra Brosh March 2nd, 2015
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