You know as much as I do that life doesnâ€™t always go as planned. You can fantasize and dream about how you would like things to go, but the harsh reality is that your very existence on this earth is tenuous, and your reality is founded on unpredictability, not certainty. Read on.
Dr. Andra Brosh July 16th, 2013
Youâ€™ve probably been in a situation at some point in your life when you have had to decide whether toss something out or repair it. Maybe it was a tattered pillow, a ripped pair of jeans, or an old radio. Deciding to discard something that has some potential for rejuvenation may not be too hard in every day life, but when it comes to a relationship itâ€™s pure torture. Relationships get broken just like the items in our lives, but we canâ€™t just throw them away without much thought. We spend torturous hours deciding whether itâ€™s worth saving, or if […]
Dr. Andra Brosh May 28th, 2013
You thought your marriage would mean forever, but it wasn’t to be. Now you’re left to reexamine your life and, along the way, give it new meaning and purpose. Here’s how to get there. Read on.
Dr. Andra Brosh May 20th, 2013
I first learned that love isnâ€™t optional when my heart was broken into a million pieces by my husband of 20 years. Up until that point I illusively thought that I had willingly entered into the highly desired status of eternal love. I now realize that I had put myself, and my relationship, on a pedestal so high that when we fell, I cracked open in humpty dumpty style. The un-relenting physiological experience of that breakup proved to me forever that when it comes to matters of the heart, we donâ€™t have much say. As human beings we fall in […]
Dr. Andra Brosh May 14th, 2013
The process of divorce is hard enough, but when you have to co-parent with an ex who has become the bane of your existence, things can get worse. Some parents become better at being caregivers after divorce because they find their own voice and style outside the relationship. Others transform into an unrecognizable version of themselves, making parenting a horribly intolerable experience. Either way, when you canâ€™t stand the person you are parenting with, life can become a drag, and the battle becomes exhausting. Read on.
Dr. Andra Brosh April 17th, 2013
When your spouse walks away from your marriage, a rational explanation may prove elusive. Here are five tips for finding meaning where answers are lacking. Read on.
Dr. Andra Brosh March 26th, 2013
I sit with stories of infidelity all day long. As a therapist working with relationships, you can be assured that almost every person I see is currently struggling with an infidelity from the past, in the present, or an intuitive feeling that they will one day become the victim or perpetrator of an affair. The small percentage of couples that come to see me before an infidelity have an opportunity to prevent the egregious act by taking a hard look at the relationship. Cracking open the facade of a relationship to see what might be lurking underneath can be scary, […]
Dr. Andra Brosh March 20th, 2013
When it comes to your divorce, the very idea of forgiveness might feel impossible or even incomprehensible. You might ask yourself, â€œWhy would I ever forgive someone who hurt me and ruined my life?â€ The answer is that just as anger and resentment feel empowering and often illusively relieve the pain of rejection, forgiveness can mistakenly feel like your pardoning your exâ€™s actions, or letting him or her off the hook. The truth is your anger and resentment create suffering, and your inability to forgive can keep you stuck. Read on.
Dr. Andra Brosh March 4th, 2013
I always seem to get a little cynical around Valentineâ€™s Day. Maybe itâ€™s the over-consumption of flowers, chocolates and balloons, but I have trouble getting in the spirit of love when it feels forced. As most of you know, my view of things most often comes from what I call an inside out perspective. I am always looking for whatâ€™s beneath the surface; I delve down into the darker more remote parts of emotional life. I look for the meaning in experiences with the intention of gaining insight and wisdom from what we endure on a daily basis as human […]
Dr. Andra Brosh February 12th, 2013
Buddhist teachings related to attachment, compassion, karma, mindfulness, aversion, and impermanence can make the experience of divorce less painful and more manageable. Read on.
Dr. Andra Brosh January 16th, 2013