Posted on March 8th, 2014 by Dr. Andra Brosh

images-1“If you want what you never had, then you have to do what you’ve never done.” – Unknown

There comes a time in all of our lives where we know we need to sail into unchartered territory, but we can’t seem to pull up the anchor. You know when change is imminent because you feel it, smell it, and know it deep in your soul.

You know there is no change without risk, and no growth without newness, but somehow you stay cemented to where you are, and feel frustrated that you can’t free yourself up to venture out.

Even when everything in your being tells you it’s not safe, or that you might fail, you always have the personal choice to override those voices to accomplish what is most meaningful and fulfilling in your life.

You bump into these ambivalent places when you remain in things that aren’t fully serving you.

Part of you intuitively knows that you need to change something, but another part slaps on the caution tape warning you to stay put where it’s safe and comfortable.

How many things have you been thinking about doing, but haven’t done?

How many times have you talked yourself out of something because it’s too hard, too scary or too _____ (fill in the blank)?

This little mind game you play with yourself takes up way more time, and is significantly more harmful than any of the changes you are so readily avoiding.

Stop waiting for the right time, or for the certainty you need to feel comfortable because they will never come. There will always be a voice in your head, a butterfly in your stomach, or cement on your feet.

Reflect on these words this week to manifest healthy change and growth in your life:

I am setting an intention to live my daily life with courage and strength. I will choose action over fear, and accept the uncertainties of life as windows of opportunity for learning and growth. I will remind myself that control is illusory, and that many aspects of my life will unfold without my say each and every day. Today I am choosing to make change my friend because making it my enemy will only set me up for a battle I’ll never win.

March 8th, 2014

Posted In: Divorce, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Mindfulness, Relationships, Therapy

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