I hear stories all day long. Sad stories, funny stories, unbelievable stories, and stories of courage. People tell me things that they donâ€™t tell anyone else in the world, and while this sometimes can feel overwhelming, itâ€™s more often an honor and privilege.
Within these stories are themes of love, loss, success, ambivalence and fear. I help people connect the dots of their lives by listening and watching closely for anything that will help me piece together the puzzle of who they are, and where they want to be. Sometimes these themes are so buried under layers of defense and false beliefs that I have to peel away the compacted piles of conditioning to get to the truth of that story.
Everyone has a story. This became really apparent to me in a blogging class Iâ€™m taking. My fellow bloggers write what they do for many reasons. Some are trying to make it a career, and others are trying to improve their businesses or jobs by getting better at writing about what they have to offer. Each of us took the class for at least one surface reason, but deep down we all signed up because we have something important to say, and that comes from our personal story.
Very often when clients come into their sessions they start by telling me they have â€œnothing preparedâ€ or â€œnothing to sayâ€. I understand this feeling, and it makes me sad when I hear them say these things because my interpretation is that they arenâ€™t in touch with the power of their own story. They donâ€™t feel that they have something valuable to say, and they think they need to be â€œinterestingâ€ or that theyâ€™re not worthy of being heard.
Questioning the value of your voice or story is one of the most dangerous perceptions you could have.
Itâ€™s understandable that some stories are very hard to tell. The oneâ€™s that involve abuse, shame, loss and failure can feel impossible to speak about, and these kinds of stories should only be shared when it’s appropriate and safe, but they need to be told nonetheless. The everyday chapters of our lives may seem ordinary and banal, but you would be surprised to learn how much power even the most mundane story can have.
Iâ€™m working on a blog right now on the power of what I call the intra-personal interview. This is a form of self-inquiry that comes in the way of interviewing yourself. Everyone loves to be interviewed, and there’s great value in asking yourself important questions because guess what? You really do want to tell your story.
What do you think about the value of story telling? Can you share any experiences with me about how youâ€™ve shared your own story or how you feel about the idea of that?
Dr. Andra Brosh March 21st, 2016