This morning on the news I heard a report that the first Monday after the New Year is the most depressing day of the entire year. Considering most of us should already have our New Year intentions in place, and be well on our way to becoming the best version of ourselves, I was a little surprised to hear thisâ€¦NOT.
You may or may not know this about me, but I have a tendency to intentionally take myself to darker places with the goal of shedding some light on things. For example, on my way out on New Yearâ€™s Eve I asked myself,
â€œWhat if I knew this was going to be my last New Yearâ€™s ever?â€
I thought about whether I would be going where I was headed, or if I would have chosen to do something different. I wondered if I would want to be out of the country, or home cuddled in front of the fire.
I play this little game with myself quite often because it allows me to feel grounded in the choices Iâ€™m making, and itâ€™s a reminder to always be living from a truly authentic place. When Iâ€™m unsure or uncertain I come back to this place of limited time to find my footing, and to gain perspective.
Thereâ€™s a girl I follow on Facebook who has created a whole business and brand around this very idea. Itâ€™s called â€œ6 Months To Liveâ€, and she offers advice on how to make choices and live life from this frame of mind. For her itâ€™s about living fully and doing whatever it is that makes you happy before itâ€™s too late.
As we find ourselves filled with grumpiness and lethargy after the holiday, letâ€™s try shifting the idea of time to ease some of the suffering.
The concept of time contradicts the fact that it flows seamlessly throughout our lives. There is no beginning or end to time, we just use it to provide structure and sanity so we don’t become overwhelmed.
January 1, 2014 was just another day that held a unique meaning to every person. It was a day that my good friend began a long journey toward surviving cancer. It was a day where a kid had to show up to work on a holiday. It was a day where someone died, and a day where someone was born.
For my mom who suffers from Alzheimerâ€™s, January 1, 2014 not only passed without notice, it isnâ€™t even a memory.
So when I hear about a mass depression around the adjustment to 2014, I have to presume that itâ€™s more about the anticlimactic experience of going from the anticipation of big change to the reality of what we call “everyday life”.
Here’s what I recommend…
Find solace in the fact that you are always changing, growing, and transforming whether you try to or not. You woke up different on January 1st because you are human, not because you said you would.
You can also remember that real long-term change takes time, and it cannot be forced. You have evolved over your entire lifespan to be exactly who you are right now. If you want to be better, different or more then just stay where you are because itâ€™s already happening.
Let life unfold around you.
Dr. Andra Brosh January 7th, 2014