Posted on June 3rd, 2014 by Dr. Andra Brosh

images“Happiness can be found in even the darkest of times, but only to those who remember to turn on the light.” -Albus Dumbledore

As human beings we all have an inner flame that drives us toward the life we want. For some it’s a small flame, and for others it’s a raging fire.

Then there are the times when the spark just goes out, and your left in a dark place where everything in your life feels bleak.

Your flame can get stomped out by depression, heartbreak, transition or even physical changes in your body. The feeling of being completely unlit is both literally and figuratively dark, and there isn’t much hope for anything.

The truth is that life is much brighter when you’re feeling happy, in love and on track. When things are going your way you don’t really notice the vividness of the world. It’s only when something shifts or changes that you realize that the view through your rose colored lenses is a bit less vibrant.

I remember many bland days and even months when I’ve been struggling with both expected and unexpected life challenges. I felt like I was moving at a snails pace through life, and every day bled into the next. I couldn’t see the good in anything, my heart felt closed, and I honestly felt most things were pointless.

I definitely had a “why bother” attitude, and nothing inspired me. Life was bland and boring.

I know for me it was easy to become self-indulgent or absorbed when things weren’t going my way. I eventually figured out that I needed to look up and out beyond myself to reconnect with what was really important.

When I did this I found that there were many people with a sadder story, and I always seemed to find something worse happening in the world that put my situation in perspective.

Even in the darkness there’s light, but when you stand in your own way it’s impossible to let it through. You literally block your own light when you lose perspective, and focus too much on yourself.

You also have to be careful not to wait for something outside of you to come and re-ignite your flame. If you’re dependent on external sources to feel inspired, happy or excited about life you give away your own power.

If you’re currently in a dark time, or want to be prepared for the next time you find yourself in the dark, spend some time figuring out what fires you up. Even if it’s a small spark, that’s okay.

Try shifting your outlook and deepen your appreciation for what’s going right. Like the ancestors that came before you, use what you have to create your inner fire. Become resourceful and do whatever it takes to shine brightly.

June 3rd, 2014

Posted In: Mindfulness, Relationships, Therapy, Tips, Wellbeing

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