5 Powerful Life Lessons to Learn From Divorce
As soon as my husband told me he wanted a divorce, I felt like my life was over. We were married for 20 years and lived in a beautiful house with two kids. I was truly living the dream. The moment I heard those words, my whole world came crashing down. The fantasy I had of forever was now a reality of never. For three years, I spent my time picking up the pieces of my shattered dream, doing my best to make sense of everything. I never thought this crazy, surreal ride would end. I was diagnosed with breast […]
Dr. Andra Brosh February 10th, 2016
Posted In: Divorce, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Women
Ending Before You Begin
What would life look like if we lived it backward? What if we began at the end and then proceeded from there? What if we ended before we began? We all focus on beginnings and celebrate the starts without any thought about possible endings. You may be asking what’s the point of thinking about endings since they are often unpredictable and inevitable? The one word answer I can offer is prevention. “If we can own the story then we can write the ending.” -Brene Brown It’s true that many outcomes are unpredictable. It’s also true that endings are not always […]
Dr. Andra Brosh March 23rd, 2015
Posted In: Divorce, Marriage, Mindfulness, Relationships
How to Successfully Fail
“It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” – Bill Gates Being perfect is overrated, and ultimately impossible. No matter how hard you try to do things just right or in a way that’s construed as acceptable there are always going to be moments of failure. It’s not your fault because society has taught you to pursue ultimate success and avoid failure. Doing things well is ultimately what gets rewarded. If you’re perfect you’ll be accepted, honored, praised and even loved. If you make mistakes or fail at a task you’re very […]
Dr. Andra Brosh October 14th, 2014
Posted In: Divorce, Relationships, Tips, Wellbeing
Dealing With Life’s Sold Out Moments
“Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible.” – Frank Zappa I have always tried to see life as a journey. There have been times in my life where I’ve been pulled to view my passage here on earth as a means to an end, but when I choose to keep a pilgrimage perspective I find that I’m less disappointed (or even crushed) when things don’t go as planned. Most of us walk through the world with the presumption that we will get where we intend to go, but more often than not the path you choose takes a […]
Dr. Andra Brosh October 7th, 2014
Posted In: Andra Brosh, Divorce, Infidelity, Love, My Experience, Tips, Wellbeing
How to Push Pause
If you have children, or have ever spent any time around little kids you’ll know what I mean by primitive behavior. Primitive behavior is your most fundamental and reptilian way of acting particularly within the context of upsetting situations. When a child bites a playmate after having a toy snatched away, or screams and writhes on the floor when the TV gets turned off they’re exposing their lack of reflection, and their inability to regulate strong emotions All very normal for a young child, but sometimes as adults we don’t outgrow this kind of trigger-reaction behavior. Being responsive instead of […]
Dr. Andra Brosh September 1st, 2014
Posted In: Communication, Divorce, Love, Mindfulness, Relationships, Wellbeing
Why Waiting for Change Doesn’t Work
“If you want what you never had, then you have to do what you’ve never done.” – Unknown There comes a time in all of our lives where we know we need to sail into unchartered territory, but we can’t seem to pull up the anchor. You know when change is imminent because you feel it, smell it, and know it deep in your soul. You know there is no change without risk, and no growth without newness, but somehow you stay cemented to where you are, and feel frustrated that you can’t free yourself up to venture out. Even […]
Dr. Andra Brosh March 8th, 2014
Posted In: Divorce, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Mindfulness, Relationships, Therapy
10 Indicators That Your Marital Ship Is Sinking
I remember deciding to leave my marriage. After months and months of trying to make it work, I got to a point where I couldn’t stay any longer. It wasn’t my choice to end the marriage, but my partner made it impossible for me to stay. The decision to walk away from something I had been so committed to was torturous because there was a part of me that would not let go of the idea that it could be saved. I knew the ship was sinking fast, and I tried really hard to scoop out the water, but ultimately […]
Dr. Andra Brosh February 3rd, 2014
Posted In: Communication, Divorce, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Tips
The Beauty of Being Broken
I was making breakfast the other morning and I decided to have a fried egg. I heated the oil in the pan and cracked the eggshell letting the yellow yolk and surrounding white spread out as it began to sizzle. I looked at the beautiful, bright color of the egg yolk and it reminded me of how so much beauty can come from something after it’s been cracked open. I cannot think of a more profound metaphor for the many life encounters where we become opened by an experience that exposes the deep beauty of our insides. It’s a common […]
Dr. Andra Brosh January 28th, 2014
Posted In: Cancer, Divorce, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, My Experience, Relationships, Therapy
Why Life Feels Unfair
“All this talk about equality. The only thing people really have in common is that they are all going to die.” – Bob Dylan Sometimes life seems very unfair until I realize that it’s supposed to be. How many times have you become indignant about someone else’s behavior or actions? How many times have you felt completely irate over something not going your way? I’m sure there are countless incidents of unfairness for all of us. Even though we know that the idea of all things being even is completely unrealistic, we somehow still expect that life should pan out […]
Dr. Andra Brosh January 21st, 2014
Posted In: Cancer, Divorce, Infidelity, My Experience, Therapy, Tips, Wellbeing
Let’s Dream Together
When you were small your dreams were lofty and possible. Over time they became more and more distant, ultimately unachievable or crushed. Dreaming about the future is a natural and healthy part of being human, but we need to learn how to honor and take our dreams back when they’ve been robbed from us. Your ability to reach your dreams has nothing to do with your own capability or your lack of ambition. Your dreams were most likely suffocated or temporarily terminated by the influential people in your life. Dreams are illustrations in the book your soul is writing for […]
Dr. Andra Brosh November 6th, 2013
Posted In: Divorce, Infidelity, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Therapy, Tips, Wellbeing