The World Through Unloved Eyes
The way you see the world is called your perception, and your perception is driven by your internal experience of yourself, others and the world. What you take in from your environment gets digested and then regurgitated as your external experience. This is true both as a child and as an adult and it’s a constant ongoing process throughout life that is dependent on what’s happening in any given moment or day. However, the most imbedded experiences that stem from your earliest life are the most influential, and this is particularly true when it comes to love. The most important […]
Dr. Andra Brosh September 17th, 2015
Posted In: Love, Mindfulness, Relationships, Therapy, Wellbeing
Get a PH.D. In Your Emotional Life
In your daily life you probably ignore your feelings. Whether it’s due to a lack of awareness or a need to repress what you don’t want to feel, you’re missing out on some very important information that you need for success in your life. When I first went back to graduate school to get my Ph.D., I worried about my ability to perform, and whether I was smart enough to take on that kind of education. I spent quite a bit of my young adult life feeling stupid, and conditioning myself into believing that I just wasn’t a smart person. […]
Dr. Andra Brosh July 30th, 2015
Posted In: Communication, Mindfulness, Relationships, Therapy
It’s Not You.
I say this because I know you blame yourself for something in your life. Maybe it’s eating that extra cookie, your marriage ending, your child’s poor grades or not working that extra few hours to meet a deadline for work. We’ve all been in that place where we beat ourselves up for failing, not quite meeting the mark, giving up or not following through on commitments to ourselves or others. Aside from the rare occasion that you become a victim and blame others or the world, you most likely spend a good part of your time wondering how you could […]
Dr. Andra Brosh June 2nd, 2015
Posted In: Mindfulness, Therapy, Wellbeing
Why You Need to be Better
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.†— James Baldwin There’s a difference between not feeling like you’re enough, and wanting to be better than you are. Feeling less than is an issue of self-value and focuses on deficits; wanting to be better is an act of desire and focuses on improvement. There aren’t too many people that seek personal growth and who have a natural inclination to improve the way they are in the world. The journey toward introspection and insight into your internal world is always optional. You […]
Dr. Andra Brosh May 20th, 2015
Posted In: Mindfulness, Therapy, Wellbeing
The Happiness Question Everyone Should Be Asking
A client came in recently in a state of confusion. She wanted to know if she should or shouldn’t leave her current relationship. She explained to me how unhappy she had become with her partner over the past several months, but she wasn’t sure if she was making a mistake by walking away. This state of ambivalence is extremely common among the people I see in my practice, and we have all been there at some point in our lives. That tough space where we find ourselves between what we want, and what we should do. It’s a place we […]
Dr. Andra Brosh May 5th, 2015
Posted In: Love, Mindfulness, Relationships, Therapy, Wellbeing
I Can’t Even Imagine…Can You?
As children we all held the capacity for imagination. Growing up has its perks, but as we get older we tend to abandon this part of ourselves in the service of becoming big. As kids we used our imagination to ponder what could be. Now as grown ups we use it to wonder what should be. When my kids were small one of their favorite books was “If†by Sarah Perry. It was my favorite too because it was a book of wonders, and it showed that limitless possibilities are everywhere. I pulled that book “If†out of the garage […]
Dr. Andra Brosh April 28th, 2015
Posted In: Mindfulness, Therapy, Wellbeing
What’s Your Source?
Sometimes we all take our resources for granted. We get used to provisions without questioning how we get them or where they come from. It’s the same with our food. We rarely reflect on where that head of broccoli originated, how it traveled to get to the store shelf, and all that happened in between that time. I think we do this on a personal level as well. We do, accomplish, obtain and get through life without much thought about how it happened. We rarely consider the source of our pain, success or circumstances. What generative force made them possible? […]
Dr. Andra Brosh April 21st, 2015
Posted In: Mindfulness, Therapy, Wellbeing
Are You Filtering Your Self-Image?
We’ve all done it. Taken a picture and then edited it to make it look better than the original. This idea of changing something from it’s original form into something more acceptable translates to your real life as well. The image you have of yourself is no different than the image you produce on your phone. When you look at yourself, and decide that you’re not quite good enough, and want to erase your imperfections, you’re editing out pieces of yourself that make you who you are. This unsatisfactory perspective of yourself and your life put you at risk for […]
Dr. Andra Brosh March 16th, 2015
Posted In: Andra Brosh, Love, Men, Relationships, Therapy
Are You Curious? Here’s Why You Need to Be.
There are so many life skills you could learn. Being a better listener, speaking more honestly, being compassionate, practicing gratitude and being kind are just a few of the ways you can make a difference in the world and on the people around you. However, there is one practice that will really shift how you relate to yourself, others, and the world. Curiosity. When you become curious you shift into a space of openness. A curious person is an observer paying attention to the sites, sounds and experiences happening at any given moment. Curiosity can be considered a form of […]
Dr. Andra Brosh March 9th, 2015
Posted In: Communication, Love, Mindfulness, Therapy
Getting Your Head and Heart in Alignment
As a human being you have been given the wonderful gift of thinking. Your thoughts generally allow you to make decisions, assess situations, and make determinations about you and the world. Your brain is powerful. It works with your body to initiate and control behavior. It also feeds you the information you take in from your environment, and helps you make sense of it. You believe what you think the majority of the time, and your thoughts influence the perceptions you hold of yourself and the world. Your thoughts however can easily turn from friend to foe. In the darker […]
Dr. Andra Brosh February 12th, 2015
Posted In: Communication, Love, Relationships, Therapy, Wellbeing