Clinical psychologist offering therapeutic services for life, love, marriage & divorce
Get in the Now
We have three places we can live daily. In the past, in the present, or in the future. Most of us live in the past or the future 98% of the time. If you haven’t noticed where you spend most of your psychological time, start paying attention to where your you go on a daily basis.
I usually stay stuck in the past when I feel a sense of regret or shame about something I said or did. I beat myself up over it until I realize that I can’t change what I did; I can only change how I relate to it in the present moment.
At other times I project into the future and imagine my life like it’s a movie that I get to write and cast. This is different than dreaming, it’s a way to bind my anxiety about the uncertainty and lack of control I feel about my life plan.
My greatest lesson about staying in the present moment came when my marriage ended. In one moment the doors on both ends of my life slammed shut. I was forced to remain in the present because my past was dubious, and my future was uncertain.
Sometimes we learn the most when going through the worst.
I read a really great quote this morning that inspired my video for this week.
“The present is a reflection of the past, and the future is the re-echo of the present.” – Unknown
Click here to watch Get in the Now
Staying in the present moment may not be a new concept to you, but I bet it has yet to become a regular practice.
Try it this week and let me know how you do.
Dr. Andra Brosh November 11th, 2013
Posted In: Divorce, Love, Mindfulness, My Experience, Therapy, Tips, Wellbeing
